Don't be fooled into thinking that some people have it together all of the time. In fact nobody does. People might have this outer appearance of looking happy and look like they never have a bad day but it's rarely the case. I have experienced people who are the most positive, "got it all together" people and later find out that behind closed doors they're a mess, they're actually beautifully human like you and me. Social media only amplifies this as people only portray their best version of themselves online. Therefore we are fooled to think that’s what their lives look like, being blind to what really goes on behind closed doors. That’s why I try to be as real and raw as I can, sharing my own insecurities and flaws with you all. If you keep trying to aim for perfection in life, you will continuously be disappointed as you try and reach an unachievable goal.
Remember we are all human
I think sometimes people care too much about what everyone else thinks of them that they feel the need to hide behind this perception of a perfect life where they pretend like everything is great. It's often not the case. I like to think of myself as a positive, confident person but I can tell you right now I don't feel like that everyday. Some days I just want to stay in bed all day, some days are really crap and everything goes wrong and I think "why even bother". Some days I’m too lazy to train so I eat a chocolate bar instead. And some days I'm an absolute nightmare and whinge all day and my poor boyfriend has to put up with me! I don't know how he does it. Remember we are all human, with our own flaws and insecurities, so stop thinking that there are people in this world with a “perfect life”. They simply just don’t exist.
Life has ups and downs
Seriously life is not always sunshine and rainbows. Sometimes life is just crap and it's ok to have "bad days". It’s just important that you don't let yourself stay there. In my experience, the longer you stay there, the worse it gets and you can get stuck. Being in that frame of mind doesn't do you any good. So if you have a bad day, week or month that’s okay. Just get it out of your system, have a good cry if you want and move on. Life is up and down and you're going to have some crap days but you're also going to have days that are amazing which make the bad ones all worth while.
It’s okay to make mistakes
Making mistakes is a part of life and you need to learn that it’s okay to make them. In fact mistakes can be used to teach us the greatest lessons and help us grow into better people. If you make a mistake, accept it and see what you can do to learn from it. I’ve made so many mistakes in my life, and still do today. The important thing is not let them get to you or make you feel inferior or like a failure. So if you make a mistake, accept it, learn from it and move on as soon as you can.
Speak kindly to yourself
We aren’t perfect and that’s okay. But just because you can’t do something, or you’ve made a mistake make sure you are still speak kindly to yourself. I hear so many girls talk bad about themselves because they are comparing themselves to others and think that they aren’t good enough. If we keep putting ourselves down then we can never truly reach our potential. We begin to believe what we tell ourselves. I used to be one of those girls, and allowed my head to be filled with self doubt and negative talk. I thought I wasn’t good enough and all I was doing was self-sabotaging my life. My life only began to change when I change how I thought and how I spoke to myself. So please be kind to yourself as much as you can.
Girls it’s time to stop aiming for perfection and start realising that we all have flaws, we all make mistakes and we are all human. No matter what appears on the outside there is always a story behind closed doors. If you want to look for people for inspiration, look for those who show them real selves, their flaws, their insecurities and all. When you let go of the idea of being perfect, you will find so much more happiness in your life.